Some thoughts. . . . I have a site about this subject not because I think my sex life is anyone's business, but because a whole lot of people try to make it their business. Any asexual who has tried to be honest on this subject is going to have dealt with non-asexual people expecting that asexuality has to be "proved," "defended," or "justified" before it can be respected. We're confronted with demands for tests, requests that we jump through various hoops to try to make ourselves sexual, or beliefs that asexuality should be something we want to fix. I want people to understand that we're qualified to describe our own experiences. I find myself in a position not unlike gay or bisexual people: I don't want to become my sexuality (or lack thereof), but I want to make information available about lack of sexual attraction being not a sickness or a psychosis in itself but rather a legitimate sexual orientation. I don't want to be on a soap box, but I am eager to contribute to the public's acknowledgment and acceptance of asexual people, and I am not ashamed of being one of said minority. And maybe one day, with my help and the help of others like me, identifying as an asexual might be considered an unusual but acceptable alternative instead of a condition that causes asexual people's friends, loved ones, and mental health professionals to assume they're confused, immature, traumatized, or lying about their own feelings. I don't mind discussing sex and matters related. I understand that people are curious about my lack of interest since it's such an unusual state for a person of my age. It's when they try to assign some all-encompassing "reason" for it, like they know better than I do even though they've just met me, or when they treat it like I have a disease that needs curing, that I start to get annoyed. Sorry, but I know me better than you do, and I think I'm probably the only person qualified to describe my feelings. And that's why I have this page; I figure it falls to me, a person who is used to deconstructing difficult-to-relate concepts, to lay this out straight for the asexuals of the world and the people who want to understand us.

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