Nate: I feel ya, but dont get defensive. The internet is a breeding ground for irrational poeple, since Im sure you never actually showed up to any of these peoples houses and wooped some A. People have the ability to say whatever they want, without reprocusion.

As for the Asexuality, i hate the fact poeple assume its a closet-homosexuality lifestyle.

Setzer: If you aren't interested in sex, fine, but Anti-sexual? Why do you have a link like that up? It seems a bit excessive.

Jill: I love you just for making this rant. I told my mom and my therapist that I think I might be nonsexual. Of course they didn't take it seriously and thought I would probably grow out of it. I don't get what people mean when they say you should go to the doctors or do something about it. I see no reason for it. It's not like you're going to die from not having sex. I like being nonsexual and I want to stay this way.

Nyasu: YES. Yes, yes, yes, yes, YES. *_*

Growing up, I was (and still am) very naive. I knew absolutely nothing about attraction, sexuality...or anything for that matter. I had a friend who delighted in telling me every year that "next year" I'd like guys. Hm. When that never happened, I just sorta thought "Sweet! I'm different! I'm free of all the mind controlling hormaonal nonsense that people are forced to submit to! Yahahaha!"

Wasn't until several years later that I ran into the term "asexual", after a friend commented on a story of my confused attempt to turn down a joking date request, saying that the story was funnier since I was asexual. I looked up the word in the dictionary and got very confused. But then I looked it up on Wikipedia and suddenly understood.

Of course, I can't be entirely sure that I am, seeing as I am only 17, am still a virgin, and in fact, have never kissed, groped, or anything else that you mentioned as not turning you on. I dunno. I figured I'd just wait and see (and desperately hope nothing changes! ^^)

Your rant was very comprehensive and I actually felt sorry that you have to go through all sort of ridiculous questions like that. >< Fortunately, my friends aren't the sort to bother themselves with what everyone else does in private...actually, I'm not even entirely sure they know I'm asexual, as the topic never comes up.

Although...considering how many times I've said to random people "I don't like guys", I 'm surprised (and glad) that no one thinks I'm a lesbian. Or maybe they do and I just don't know. Crap. ><

So, uh...yeah, enough of my random ramblings and kudos to you!

~Nyasu

Anonymous: I really applaud your website you listing all the reasons why most people will find it hard to believe your no running around having sex and sniffing ass like a dog. I have heard comments like these as well, however, when I was in my early twenties I did kiss and almost do other things, but overtime it just did not appeal to me anymore. I even fantisize, but now I just go to sleep simply because sex is too over-rated. I was basically burned out with hearing do you have kids, have you been married, who is going to pay for the hotel room. These kind of comments made me think less and less about sex and men. Unlike, you I do not have any friends, because it is the way I choose to be. My priorities surround having a good education, and having a meaningful job. My hopes include getting my own home and adopting a child one day. It is that simple with me. If I could say that there was a cause for me just losing what little drive I did have, I would say it was men who lie, and play little childish games that ultimately killed my sex drive. Another culprit is females who just have babies with whom ever. These kind of people act like a pack of wild dogs, sniffing each others ass.

Darien: "I know I'm not normal and I simply don't care."

How are you not normal? Just because idiots who divide everything into little pigeonholes because they can't handle freedom may label you as not normal, doesn't mean you aren't. You may not be commonplace, but you are normal.

Very good site, but the black background makes it hard to read. :)

swankivy: My e-mail response to this person noted that if that's the case then there's no such thing as someone who isn't normal. More of the response: "Normal" pretty much means "behaves as expected," etc. . . . there are quite a few things about me that are pretty unusual and often have to be explained or at least are often things people don't fully understand. I'm not trying to say "ooh, I'm so *different* because I choose to do my hair a certain way and I have really *bizarre* taste in music!" or something like that--it just so happens that a lot of my outlooks and life circumstances are not normal and I find myself dealing with rather annoying expectations because of it sometimes. People expect that because I am single I am therefore obviously going to be looking for a way to change that when that's not the case, or they expect that I have a car and/or a driver's license and when they find out that I *don't* they assume it must be because it got taken away as a punishment or something rather than I just never had an interest in getting one, just tons of stuff like that. I think there are some fundamental things about me that people misunderstand, and I try to help them understand if they want to, but a lot of the time it's just a person who misunderstands and is convinced their mistaken impression is the correct one and that anything I say against it is just a bunch of denial. When people assume time after time after time that certain things in your life are one way when they are another, there is no way to say that those things are "normal." And that statement that you quoted above simply expresses that I'm okay with that. It's not something I strive for and it's not something I strive to avoid; it's just a fact.

katie: awesome!

Ian: Curiosity about asexuality had been at the back of my mind since I heard something about it years ago, and on a lark I looked it up and somehow wound up on your site. Your words definitely ensured that I would not fall into the mistake of pigeonholing asexual people (or non-sexual as you refer to it). Not only did I enjoy your perspective on asexuality, but your writing and wit were a pleasure to read - Thanks!

CursedFreedom: In a way I can relate.

I have a sex drive, but I haven't had any sex with anyone yet, nor am I in any hurry to. I like my life as it is, and although I do get lonely sometimes, I have friends to keep me company and make my life that much more exciting. I can easily make do without sex.

I don't mind at all that you are asexual. I still think nothing less of you. You write very good essays, with that spark of intelligence that keeps me interested. And you actually write back to me! I couldn't say that about some of my other friends...

Oh and for the record... you're more than "reasonably attractive." :)