Annki: Good site. I thought I was the only nonsexual person in this world, but now I know I'm not! Thank you!

Kerri: hello
I seriously appreciate and respect your website dedicated to asexualism (nonsexual)
I am infact asexual as well
and was glad to see that you straightened things out for people who don't understand
I get those questions all the time too
and I am just really glad you did it
you're awesome!

nicholas: Thanks so much for writing this - you make great points. I'm not exactly sure how many people are "physiologically" asexual - I suspect some people (like myself) might equate sex with love so much that its not something we could feel comfortable with until we are completely & totally secure in love. Our current culture discounts this idea as "repression" & religious "brainwashing". I think the opposite is true - that pop culture brainwashes people to be obsessed with sex. Its so bad that most people are like Pavlovian dogs reacting to sexual stimuli. Anyways, good luck & thanks again - I hope you find happiness & love.

Candice Smith: I was in the process of finding information on asexuality and after joining the forums at AVEN, I did an aol search and found the article on Salon.com.

Your site is quite insightful; I'm glad you're so willing to be outspoken and blunt for those that don't understand or try to find lists of reasons for asexuality. The attitude behind the site reminds me a lot of myself; it was almost like reading my own type of rant :-)

I've gotten some of those same responses; I believe the most common one (for me) is the assumption that I must be lesbian or that I just don't know what I'm missing (as I am a virgin). I think the ignorance of people-on this topic-is something that more people should look into. Making your site was a great step towards awareness.

--Candice Smith

Caitlin: You rock!!! I found out about your website through the article on Salon.com. How infuriating! That so-called therapist needs some help herself.

justme: i have been exploring the topic of human sexuality and came across your site...while i have heard of asexuality and even pondered briefly if i was asexual (i'm not, but i am bi), i could never really be convinced that asexuality was something real and legit. you've definitely changed my mind. kudos!
i've learned that while some people who use the asexual label may not really be asexual, asexuality itself is valid. the same for all other orientations.

swankivy: Thanks, "justme," I appreciate that. I agree with you, it's true that many people who use it aren't truly asexual--and that's the same as with bisexuals, homosexuals, and . . . hey, artists. Hehe. It does have validity even if some of the people who use its label don't actually make very good examples. Let's just hope that the people who make the news using it aren't the ones who don't deserve it.

Joshua: Just wanted to thank you for the resource. I am married to an asexual woman, and we've been together for 8 years. It was hard for me to grasp what was going on, until we figured out what she was. Then everything clicked and we've been fine. Anyway, I found your site by trying to find references to help other people understand who/what they are, and why our relationship is different than most. So, I hope you don't mind, but I use your rant page as a kind of FAQ and catch all for an insight into asexuality for other people. I think you did a fantastic job with laying it all out there. thank you.

TP: Julie, Here via Salon. (A current article now links to the original one). I loved reading your rant, even though it's sucks that it even had to be said. I think there is more for people here than just "what is nonsexuality?"

Sexual interest is not owed by any one to any one else, period. The same can be said for explaining it to someone else. If you are content, then there simply is no "problem", end of story. At this point, any problem is beyond you and resides with the person who cannot accept this because they don't understand that their right to your body stops where your decision to consent starts.

No one, as far as I know, is turned on 24 hours a day, by 100% of the people they come across, which means your rant has a pretty universal appeal. Once doesn't have to be nonsexual to know what it's like to say "not interested" and get the same types of responses you do.

Like, oh, that crud from dia_lg: "Probably you are happy." Sounds like you're happy to me! Why? Because you said so, you're straightforward, come across as sane, and you said so. Don't you love it when people tell you what you're feeling? Me neither. "What do you have to lose?" Lots. The ability to be true to ones self, trust ones instincts, and be honest with others, to start. Why the hell would you want to compromise that? I'd worry a hell of a lot more if you were doubtful and distressed and thinking that even though you have no desire to, you should go out and bang someone to 'try it on' like it was a jacket or something.

Thing is, no one would care if you decided not to try on a jacket. And even if you did try it on, deciding you don't like it has no emotional consequences whatsoever, and effects no one else at all. Sex is just a wee bit different than that.

Julie, well done.

Eileen: Wow, Haven't I learned a lot while searching out the word 'a-sexual'. Just thought I was looking up the meaning of a word for an assignement and I found ME. I thought I was really weird, not being interested in a sexual realtionship with ANYONE. I have been labelled a 'lesbian' but that really is not my seen, but neither is a hetrosexual one, although I was once married for 13 years, but he was my only sexual partner.

Amazingly I have not missed the sex, but MANY others have not understood me, and I did not think that I had a valid reason, as I did not fit into the normal stereotyping of gay, bi or hextro, although related to celibacy, but without the effort that they may require.

Thanks for your article, I feel great. : )

Eileen