What is the purpose of this e-mail?

Hey, if you have something to say to me, say it. Otherwise, don't e-mail me. God, I hate it when I get an e-mail, especially from someone I hardly know, that just says "Hi!" or "How r u doing???" If I answer they proceed to add me to their buddy list and IM me smiley faces and "hi im bord" messages, and they add me to their mailing lists so they can send me "r u my friend???? send it back!!!" e-mail chains. Oh the horror! My God, people, e-mail was created to send MESSAGES, not inane little excuses for greetings.

I'm happy to get a little "just wondering how you were doing" from an old friend, or nice e-mails that introduce a new person to me in an appealing way. But being a Kids Only host on AOL had its drawbacks. :( Man, I get a lot of mail that has no content. I guess we can't blame anyone but ourselves for allowing seven-year-olds to access the Internet. I wonder if this empty e-mail has anything to do with the fact that no one has anything to say to each other anymore? Has it all been said? I'm reading too much into it. Kids are just bored and want to send e-mail. Sometimes I think they'd be content if we just e-mailed each other back and forth all day saying "Hi." "Hi." "How r u." "I am fine." Blah blah blah. And blah blah blah. Ugh.

But believe me, it's not just stupid kids that are sending me mail. I'm on OKCupid, and most of the messages I get there are great, but I get a fair number from men (yes, mostly men) whose entire messages are just "hey whats up lol?" If a conversation has no content and goes back and forth like that for more than one exchange, I've gotten to the point where I demand content. I tell them that if they do not have anything to say, I do not want to talk. That behavior earns me disdain sometimes from people who do not like being expected to have something to say. They protest that they're just trying to be friendly, or insinuate that my standards are unreasonable, or (most commonly) tell me how much of a bitch I am.

Well . . . if that makes you leave me alone, that what exactly have I lost?

Talk to me if you have something to say. If you don't, don't.

Any comments left here are PUBLIC. If you are not comfortable with that, mail me directly.

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Comments from others:

Mikey: Indeed it seems that we all get the crap mail. It just sucks!!!!

Robin: Well.. I guess I should have done this a long time ago. I could be one of those rude jerks that sit there and flame you. I could, but I have nothing to flame you over. Kinda makes it hard. Personally, I think you're cute (I LOVE the comment on the front page aabout your picture..I get a laugh out of that every time.).
What i will do is go one record here by saying: Having communicated with you via email for..what is it? A year or so now? I've found you to be refreshingly intelligent, charming and probably a lot of fun to hang out with... I've gained a lot of respect for the wonderful lady Ivy...
For those of you who think she's conceited (Hey - I even know how to spell!! How about that! Maybe because I've never been a cheerleader...~L~), really need to read more about her. EVERYONE is conceited to some extent. Ivy's not the kind of conceited that pisses people off. I think its just that peope are intimidated by people of intelligence.
Ivy, I'm glad we've become friends...I don't know if you're silver or gold, but either way, you're worth keeping....